If You Love Someone Should You Tell Them and How Do You Know When the Time is Right?
Love is a beautiful thing, and we all know it. But, why is it so challenging to say the three words to someone you love? Well, we all fear being rejected or turned down, and admitting that you are afraid of rejection doesn’t make you weak or desperate. On the contrary, it makes you human.
However true that may be, we can’t live without saying, ‘I love you’ to that special someone in our lives. It’s like being in a dark room, and you have the keys to unlock the door, but you can’t. If that’s your current dilemma, then you’ve come to the right place.
Some people will tell you that if you love someone, you should tell them directly, while others will tell you not to say anything since it will drive them away. But here’s the kicker: people who don’t say, ‘I love you’ in a relationship are the same people being rejected over and over.
Honestly, you can’t just say, ‘I love you’ and expect your partner to be yours forever. Love doesn’t work like that. More importantly, even if you end up with the one you love, you will not know if they will stay forever. In other words, love is not just a feeling or rush of emotions. It’s complicated whether you’ve found someone you love or not.
Although relationships tend to be different, here are a few ways you can tell when it’s the right time to drop the three words;
When your feelings need to be free
Telling someone that you love them is mostly dependent on your personal preference. Today, most people like to play games. That said, authenticity is highly appreciated, even if it might not be reciprocated. Therefore, just say, ‘I love you’ when you feel the moment is right.
When you start to analyze whether it’s too soon or too late, then you will likely lose the element of authenticity in your expression. Trust me; even if the other person is not ready to say the words right back, you will feel free once you share your feelings.
Additionally, you will also declare to your partner where you stand and what your intention is with the relationship. Always remember that the best time is when you can tell what tomorrow will bring for the two of you.
When you feel that it’s mutual
Even though your feelings should dictate when you should say them, expressing what you feel inside can be a bit tricky, especially in a new relationship. As I said earlier, you will always worry about whether it’s too soon or too late.
Pay attention to the signs that your partner is giving you. Even if your partner might not say the words right away, chances are they are probably as afraid of telling you how they feel the same way you are. Before verbally expressing how you feel, take a closer look at the actions of your partner.
As you continue getting to know each other, you will also develop a strong sense that will tell you whether your love is reciprocated or not. So, if you are feeling it but you don’t see if your partner is feeling the same, then it’s not the right time to say anything. But that doesn’t mean that your partner is not in love with you.
Take this opportunity to understand your relationship better and give it a clear definition. However, if your partner makes it uncomfortable for you to have this type of conversation, then you should question how they feel about you.
But of course, you might never know if the feeling is mutual unless you ask directly. All in all, saying, ‘I love you’ when the feeling is not mutual will strain your relationship
You will feel it in your gut
Regardless of how many books you’ve read about love, there is no right time to say that you love your partner. That may sound a bit odd, but let me give you the reason why I say so. The only thing you will have to regret when you say these words is if it’s not reciprocated. Otherwise, if the magic is there, it doesn’t matter if you say it at the beginning of the relationship or a few months down the line.
But nothing is more precious than saying these words for the first time as you face your partner and see their direct reaction. The best way to know that it is the right time to say, ‘I love you,’ is by listening to your gut feeling. Don’t wait to say these words. Life is short, and you need to share these precious days with someone you love.
Be sure of how you feel
Remember that you can only express your feelings if you understand them. That said, you shouldn’t say these words if you don’t know what you feel. Sounds weird, right? But trust me, it does happen sometimes.
Whether it’s out of the desire to get laid or boredom, some people can say they love you to play with your feelings. A few hours after they’ve said it, there’s a high chance that they might not feel it.
I assure you, that’s entirely unfair for your partner and to yourself. That’s because it’s is not being done out of love and from the heart. That will complicate your life and also that of your partner. Always say I love you when you mean it. Once you are sure that you love your partner, then it becomes easier to express yourself.
So, should you tell someone when you love them?
In my opinion, of course, you should. What do you have to lose, and what will you gain? On the one hand, you will finally find the love that millions of people are always searching for. While on the other, you can now finally understand the dynamics of your relationship.
Once you know that your partner doesn’t feel the same way you do, then you can move on and find love somewhere else.
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